At Remembrance Funerals we understand that for the Maori people, Tangihanga, (the time of mourning) is an integral part of the grieving process. Generally you would take your loved for up to 3 days of mourning and is customarily held at the whare tangi or at the family home. We understand that support for the whanau pani (bereaved family) is fundamental to this cultural mourning process.
Traditionally a Tangihanga is a time for family and friends to gather and spend time with the whanau pani, to grieve with them and to support them during their time of grief and sadness. Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy and a Tangihanga gives people the chance to talk, to cry, to laugh and share stories and memories. As with all cultures, this is an important part of the grieving process.
At the end of the three day ceremony sometimes a Po Whakangakau, or Po Whakamutunga is held. This is a special night of performance, singing, storytelling, jokes and often laughter. The traditional purpose of the Po is to brighten the spirits of the whanau pani – an acknowledgement that the coming weeks will be difficult.
Tangihanga not only provides a space to grieve it is a celebration of life. It is a way of saying goodbye to our loved ones before they join their Tupuna (Ancestors) in the spirit world.
Tahiti, Samoa, Tonga, Fiji, The Cook Islands & Nuie (Pacifika) have their own unique customs associated with grief and mourning. At Remembrance Funerals we understand and respect the deep faith of the Polynesian People and offer to families a ceremony which is as close to island traditions as possible.
Remembrance Funerals can assist with a cremation service or a burial and can also assist in the organisation of repatriation to New Zealand.
Please don’t hesitate to call Susie or one of our friendly staff members to help assist you day or night.